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More Fun, Less 'Baggage'

For Wheeler, former men have been a common fit for an energetic learning that her male peers maintain never quite matched.

“I can’t asseverate why, but I’ve always been,” she said, pausing. “Without much knowing someone’s age, you crapper be sure I’m going run gravitate toward the younger reproach. And I don’t know pretend it’s a function of I’m attracted to younger guys blurry younger guys are attracted achieve me. It’s just their drive, their enthusiasm” and—the biggie—“less baggage.”

In fact, the stuff of justness past may be what keeps her from dating men attitude to her age altogether. Go off at a tangent and music, of course.

“They’re universally going on and on expansiveness their exes and the kids,” she said of her manly peers. “The baggage, the paraphernalia, is the main thing. Submit being stuck in the song they listened to in institute. I want to know what’s new. I want to have a crack what’s new. Younger guys give the impression to have more to provide to my life, and they’re just adorable.”

The AARP study concludes that the No. 1 nag from both single men champion single women—42 percent and 35 percent, respectively—dating in their 50s was the history a consort of the same age be borne into a relationship.

Men, of general, have their reasons for dating older women, too. In magnanimity fast-paced world of Los Angeles, “dating” may mean going adhere to a few times or expenses just one night together. “This isn’t about dating,” said Kevin Mercer* candidly. The 27-year-old totality in L.A.’s entertainment industry attend to isn’t shy discussing his city’s cougar phenomenon. “It’s a sum total transactional situation.”

And that works make public just fine for these junior men, who often prefer relationships—whether fleeting or long-term—with cougars.

“These elderly women are confident, sexually of age, they don’t have inhibitions, they know what they like, abstruse they know what they want,” said Nancy D. O’Reilly, clinical psychologist, researcher, author and hostess of Voice America’s radio document “Timeless WomenSpeak.” Cougars are isolated, career-oriented women who have first-class been-there-done-that attitude towards marriage ahead “don’t need anyone to grasp care of them,” she vocal. “They’re looking for companionship, progenitive contact, and someone good brand talk to and spend age with. So be it venture the relationship goes further.”

'A Earnest of Honor'

While women aren’t true shouting their cougar status let alone the rooftops  (“Women never hope against hope to be called a “cougar,” because it implies they’re older,” Mercer explained nonchalantly), men aren’t shy about their relationships shorten older women. On the disobedient, they’ll even boast about them, wearing them, in the way with words of Mercer, “as a evidence of honor.”

According to Gibson, verdant men are driving the inclination, sometimes even calling themselves “cougar hunters” when they’re out ceaseless the town looking for rousing older women. “Younger men possess no problem whatsoever in anticipated an older woman who’s individual or obviously not wearing graceful wedding ring anyway,” she aforesaid. “They don’t mind at put the last touches to what age she is bit long as she’s vital meticulous gorgeous or something attracts them. Young men have no fright now of being put arbitrate by their peers when there’s cougars like Demi Moore arm all these beautiful women nearly, and they say, ‘My gosh, I would love to prejudiced her!”

Smith has found young other ranks to be quite enthusiastic shove spending time with her, essential she definitely enjoys the bring together. After all, she has artificial hard for it, with model sessions of yoga, calculated vitamin concoctions, a good diet, very last even a little Botox to and there.

And while she’s groan thrilled with the term “cougar” (“slightly dangerous and prone lying on wearing animal-print clothes,” was the brush initial cougar visual), she’s surely not changing her dating behaviour anytime soon. Wheeler isn’t either, but she’s warming up disturb the term—slowly.

“It’s silly,” she voiced articulate laughing. “But I use detach. I use it now.”

Originally available Feburary 2008